How Success in Relationships Can Make You a Success in Other Areas
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So often in business you hear about the guy who makes it to the top because he ran over everyone to get there. While people who use these types of win-at-all-cost tactics still find a way to succeed, more and more of these people are getting fired, moved to the sidelines, or left behind. Why? Because people have found a better way to win. And it's a biblical tactic that can help you regardless of your occupation or calling in life.
This tactic is called "pursuing in love." And it's something Christians should be especially good at. After all, that's what our Heavenly Father has done with us. He gave us the perfect example by pursuing us in love. He desires to have a relationship with us. So He comes after us.
I recently heard a story about a man who ran for the Georgia state House of Representatives. To win his seat, he had to beat out seven other candidates from his own party. But the next time he ran, he ran completely unopposed. When asked what happened in the years between elections, he said, "After I was elected, I pursued all of the candidates I beat out. I got to know them, and tried to help them in any way I could. When the next election came around, they all knew me and liked me, so they didn't want to run against me."
He turned his enemy into a friend simply by pursuing them and serving them. He could have snubbed his nose at them instead, and said, "I won, so I'm obviously better than you." He didn't have to pursue them. But doing so won them over to his side.
Taking the initiative with other people is a vital part of relationships that most people miss. We're all too busy hoping others will pursue us. And when they don't, we complain about it. We all have a desire to be pursued. So think about how others will feel when you pursue them. You'll make their day.
Here's how you can get started. Make a list of 5-10 people who you would like to pursue. They might be business associates, neighbors, visitors at your church, or people you meet at a social function. Once you have the list of people, find their phone numbers and write them down beside their names. Then, schedule a time to call them and talk. Don't call for a favor or to get something you need. Call to serve them and find out how they're doing.
If it's possible, stop by and see them or invite them to lunch or breakfast. Pour your life into them. As you develop these relationships, find other people to add to your list and begin to pursue them. You never know where the relationships will take you.
About the Author
Steve Kroening writes for Success magazine and also publishes Wisdom's Edge. You can get Biblical tips on health, finance, relationships, parenting, and success, delivered to your email inbox every week. Simply visit http://www.wisdomsedge.com and sign up for this free e-zine.
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