Is Your Relationship in Turmoil?
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by: kvgautam
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We
usually blame our partner for our failed relationships, which may not be always
true. Analyzing "self" in a troubled relationship is a great thing to
be done that would be a step towards actually repairing the relationship. We
should keep in mind that blaming others, instead of owing responsibility,
doesn’t help in fixing a relationship.
In a
strained relationship, both the persons involved believe that they are right.
By doing so, the relationship is further deteriorated and a feeling of
animosity develops. It is a sensitive situation that needs to be handled
carefully.
When
you are in such a situation, relax and ponder for a while. Or, stop thinking of
your relationship and just count to ten in order to focus off for a minute. This
will cool down your brain and you will realize that just by asserting yourself
to be right doesn’t help improve the situation. Mutual understanding is always
helpful. If we begin to think from the perspective of our partners, we can
easily avoid any troublesome situation.
Most
women have great memories. They retain past memories, bitter or sweet, in their
mind for a long time. So, by bringing up old issues, you complicate the
situation instead of solving the present condition. While referring to something
past, begin with, "it may or may not be relevant but let me say this
aloud..." This will show that you are really serious and contemplating the
situation for some time. Then you can bluntly say that it's irrelevant and
needs no discussion.
It is
a well-established fact that speaking in a loud voice doesn’t prove one as
always right. By doing so, you fail to relate with your partner and your
partner may just refuse to listen to you, dismissing your outburst as too
emotional.
There
are several ways to reduce your volume. Often, partners signal at each other
when such a situation arises. When you feel that it has increased beyond
normal, follow the simple steps mentioned here. The best way is to take a few
deep breaths. Also, you can move out of the room for a moment and then lower
your voice after you return back.
Usually
when you’re upset or hurt, you tend to blame your partner for things going
awry. This doesn’t help you in anyway. By blaming your partner, you
disassociate yourself from the real issue.
It is
advisable to analyze the issue cool headedly, without thinking of the presence
of your partner. This certainly will help you in finding a suitable solution.
About the Author
K V Gautam has written extensively on dating and relationships. Currently, he provides dating tips for men on a leading entertainment Web portal www.fundoofun.com
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