What to Look for in a Soul Mate
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by: janey
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There are those who disbelieve that such things as soul mates exist, but typically these are people who haven't found that special person who is everything they'd hope for in an ideal partner and then a whole lot more. Those who have found that kind of partner however, don't doubt the existence of soul mates. They know they're around and they constantly count their blessings at being one of the lucky ones!
So what should you look for if you're looking for a soul mate? Well the first thing is that it must be someone who you find attractive. That doesn't necessarily mean they have the looks of a model and the body of an athlete. What it does mean is that there is something about them physically that catches your attention. Usually this is the first thing that you'll notice about them and which will draw you closer towards them. It could be a crooked smile, an infectious laugh, a sparkle in their eye, their height, hair -- in fact anything visual about them.
Once this person has grabbed your attention it's time to look a little deeper into their soul mate potential.
A soul mate is someone who will be your life partner, your lover, your best friend, and the person who will, over time, be able to complete your sentences and make decisions on your behalf as if you'd made them yourself. Don't expect this to happen as soon as you first meet the person who will become your soul mate.
What you should anticipate is that your soul mate will have many characteristics and opinions that match yours. They will have some which don't exactly match yours, but they will rarely conflict with what you believe.
A soul mate is someone who feels the same connection to you as you do to them, so if you are feeling a particularly strong attraction to someone, they seem to be on the same wavelength as you, and are using positive body language (such as leaning in towards you) when they have contact with you, then there's a good chance that this person could be the person you're looking for.
A common misconception about soul mates is that they never argue. This isn't the case. Don't expect life with your soul mate to be an idyllic relationship with no bumps along the way! The difference lies that these bumps won't affect the relationship in a negative way. They may cause you to address your own belief system, but they won't threaten the relationship in any way.
A soul mate isn't someone who is always thinking about themselves. They think about you and them as one unit. Even if it's not particularly what they want, but it's the best thing for the relationship, they're happy to go along with it. If you've met someone who constantly talks about their own goals and doesn't think anyone else should have any input into these, then this person may make a good partner in other respects, but they don't have soul mate potential for you - if they ever find their soul mate however, then they may find that they change their viewpoint!
A relationship with a soul mate is one that isn't always tranquil but one that feels safe even when life isn't easy. You know that this person will be with you throughout the remainder of your life because even with disagreements and problems you both know that there's no-one else you'd be happier with. Don't take the word of those who haven't found a soul mate, take the word of someone who has -- because if they've found it, they've got the evidence that it exists!
About the Author
Jane Saeman runs a site called along with info on dating and relationship on her blog at at http://www.Hot-Firefighters.com/blog2
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